• Advanced medical directives are available at doctors' offices, clinics and hospices. You can also download them from several Web sites, including at VaLegalAid.org.
  • The Web site of the National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys (NAELA.org) can point you to area lawyers who can help set up wills and other estate-planning documents.
  • For a free guide for caregivers helping elderly loved ones navigate the health system, called "The Since You Care Guide: Becoming an Effective Advocate for Care," call (203) 221-6580; e-mail: MatureMarketInstitute@metlife.com; or download the guide from www.maturemarketinstitute.com, by searching under "All Publications" and selecting "Since You Care guides" from the menu. You can also write to request a copy from the MetLife Mature Market Institute, 57 Greens Farms Road, Westport, CT 06880.
  • Check out the revised (2008) version of the book, "Caring for your Parents: The Complete Family Guide, Practical Advice You Can Trust From the Experts at AARP," by Hugh Delehanty and Elinor Ginzler.